Studies show that journaling is an effective tool in our healing journey that helps us process in an adaptive way. However, I’ve personally struggled with this activity and here is my two cents on why. If it’s handwritten in a journal with a good ol’ pen and a paper then I am storing it somewhere. Holding on to those words and memories. Placed in my office, in my bedroom night stand or in my dark closet somewhere. Just by looking at it I am reminded of the pain. The act of writing itself is empowering but whats the use if I am still holding on? If it’s typed in my laptop or phone then forget it- its with you everywhere.

So then I came across another empowering ritual which is to write letters and burn them. The physical act of writing a letter then setting it on fire, symbolic of letting go and moving on can be promising. I’m not reminded of it and the memory of burning it might actually help with moving past the pain. But who are we kidding, setting a letter on fire is a bit over the top for some people. I actually don’t know anyone who has conducted in such an activity.

I created Letters to My Parent as a safe space for individuals to talk about their pain without any judgement, any hassle with the liberating feeling of letting go.

Simply write a letter, as much as you want and as often as you want in the form below then hit enter and be done with it. You let it go. Into the abyss. Out of sight and out of mind - No matches or blowtorch required.